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Widow Mothers: Deserted to Die!

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Old mothers are left at the mercy of her offsprings and their families.

Many of the old widow mothers are thrown in old age homes to count their time, all alone.

Few of them even end up begging on the streets.

Why?

Let’s dive into the topic “Widow Mother Deserted to Die”, without wasting any more time.

Real-Life Incident: A Horrific Tale

On 21 April 2017, Geeta Kapoor (58) didn’t find anything amiss when her choreographer’s son called for an ambulance and rushed her to a private hospital to treat falling blood pressure. 

But more than a month later, as the hospital failed to contact her son to take his mother home, after clearance of pending payment of Rs. 1.5 Lakhs, her darkest fear had come true that her son had abandoned her.

SRV Hospital in Goregaon was in a total chaotic state when Mrs Kapoor was fit for discharge but had no one for payment and signed the discharge papers. 

The hospital sought help from the police to trace her son and cough out pending payment of Rs. 1.5 Lakhs or find an alternative for her, which could be sending her to Old Age Home.

The doctor informed that after the old lady was brought in an unconscious condition.

“After admission formalities got over, the son enquired if the deposit has to be paid. He left the hospital on the pretext of looking for an ATM and never returned. Since that day, no one from the family has asked for her.” said the doctor in charge of the ward.

While such incidents are normal in Government or Public hospitals, but exceedingly rare in private hospitals. 

The doctor further confirmed that the lady was in bad condition at admission, as she was undernourished. Her BP was low, and she was indeed not well fed.

More surprises were restored for the hospital when they visited the hospital to look for the son. 

The neighbours confirmed that they had rented that apartment three months back and had vacated within hours of sending the mother to the hospital.

The hospital even tried to contact her daughter, an air hostess, and her daughter-in-law, but no response.

Police confirmed that they could not shift the lady to an old age home or a public hospital if her biological relatives are alive. 

No one wanted to take the risk of taking such action, with a fear of some untoward incident happening to her, and they made personally responsible for the consequences. So, the police decided to restrict their role in assisting the hospital.

Sources confirmed that the son communicated through text messages and assured the hospital that he would pay up the pending bills and take her mother, “Whenever he has time to spare!” 

Uncomfortable Questions

1. The mother bears her child for nine months inside her womb (Part 1 and Part 2). But when it’s her son’s turn, he doesn’t have time to spare for his old and ailing mother?

2. Who is at fault? The parents for incorrect parenting? Or the society for isolating itself from such a universal issue? Or the son, who sucked all resources and energy from his mother, but when it’s his turn for payback, he just vanished?

3. Is the father not at fault, who didn’t bother his wife after being dead? No-one stopped him from drafting a “Will” transferring all property and finances to his wife after he dies!

The Problem

Finance Division. In Indian households, the family properties and finances are taken over by the son or divided among sons, assuming that the sister will get everything from her husband and in-laws. 

Although, Indian Law clearly defines that both sons and daughters are equal shareholders of the family property and finances, post-death of their parents. 

But, in most Indian families, its an unwritten rule that daughters will get everything from her husband, and everything will be either taken over by son or divided among sons.

Son is King. Therefore, it becomes compulsory for the son and his wife to take care of their parents in old age. 

Daughters are never expected to look after them, and at the same time, daughters are also not interested in looking after them. 

Also, this is one of the main reasons why sons are more sought after than daughters. We have witnessed many families where the couple kept on producing daughters (in one case 7 daughters! but no son), for the sake of having a son “Next Time”!

Missing Link. We have discussed husband (father), son (his family), and daughter (her family). 

But we have nowhere discussed the poor widowed mother, who was kicked to old age home, where she will count her last days! 

We were shocked that a woman who spent her life caring for her son could be treated in this cavalier manner.

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Moral of the Story. It was convenient to put aside the woman who nurtured the helpless children all her life as she had outlived her importance in their lives.

Wife and Mother

You have been a housewife all your life and have given your precious youth to nurturing your household.

You raise a happy family and successful children.

You supported your husband through the years and helped him build a rewarding life.

You help your husband save money for old age, which was used to buy properties or invest it in various avenues. To hold that money, you make lots and lots of sacrifices and keep your dreams aside for the family’s growth.

widow mothers deserted to die

But, like happiness, the young generation’s memory is also short-lived in today’s materialistic world.

What if the provisions made towards your lifestyle are not enough?

What if you find yourself alone in your old age?

There is much insecurity surrounding the lives of housewives, who pump in all energy in building, what they think is their kingdom, but sadly that too disintegrates when the king is gone!

Societal Expectations for Widowed Elderly Women

Ignorant Life. Indian society is very patriarchal, and most wives are not expected to know their husbands’ financial provisions and status. 

The females are brought up from childhood with a mind-frame that after marriage, they will have to live inside the house’s boundary walls and spend most of their time looking after the requirements of their husbands and kids.

In many families, the girls are told to keep their dreams on hold and materialize them only after marriage (if their husbands or in-laws support them!)

It is drilled into their minds that Mathematics and Finances are Men’s Domain, and females are doomed for these fields. The parents rarely spend their time teaching finances and its importance to girls.

Brutal Truth

Many a time, we take life for granted and assume that it will go on forever. But the truth of life is that we all have to die one day, leaving our wives all alone to manage life till the last breath.

But, if we observe the trend, we will realize that their health deteriorates more than their respective housewives by husbands being the family’s earning member and prevailing cutthroat competition.

The men work all their lives, but they neglect to tell their life partners about their financial status even in this modern age and day.

They prefer to maintain confidential notes in some diary or mobile notes, which remains with them only.

With a sedentary lifestyle, cutthroat professional competition, unhealthy food, over-dependence on mobile, slowly the males’ shelf life is shifting to the younger deadline.

The men’s lives are stressful, and often there is an unfortunate incident when the tensions that the man goes through lead to premature death due to a fatal heart attack or stroke or any other health unknown issues.

Real Life Incident 2

Dead Husband’s Wealth.

We know of an older woman whose husband was a marine engineer who used to work onboard merchant ships. 

He travelled the world, made enormous amounts of money, and gave his family an extremely comfortable life. 

As a loving gesture, he even gifted his house to his son. 

This, he believed, saved the hassle of legalities after his death. He even named his son the nominee on his insurance policies. 

Unfortunately, the gentleman expired on board the ship on one of his cruises.

Ambitious Son. The son had access to all the finances and the widow was not even aware of what was invested and where. 

The son and daughter-in-law soon found that keeping the old lady with them cumbersome as she had arthritis and needed help to get along. 

A few months later, she was left at an old age home run by the charity. 

The son paid 15000/- per month to the authorities for her care and now visits her only once a year as that is mandatory.

Unbothered Daughter. Her daughter too did not bother to offer to keep the mother who cared for her for so many years, helped her bring up her children. 

She also visited the bare minimum times she could. It was a situation that is repeated many times in today’s fast-paced and materialistic world. Why?

Present Problem

Dead Husband and Subsequent Power Tussle. As soon as the father dies, in the case of an only son (or one son and one daughter), the swift transfer of property takes place from dead father to son.

But, in the case of more than one son, the power tussle starts between them. 

After Mr Dhirubhai Ambani died, his sons Mr Mukesh and Anil Ambani started a stiff court war despite the fact their mother is still alive. 

The whole country witnessed that battle with fingers crossed, as the stock market was assumed to stumble to its lowest level.

Every son wants to have an almost full moon out of the paternal finances.

But everyone, including the widowed mother, forgets that there is one more alive person, who needs to survive the remaining part of her life all alone, i.e old widowed mother.

Prevalent Logic. Most of the time, an inherited property is divided amongst the children, hoping that they will look after the mother. This preconceived notion is very wrong many a time.

Today, the children we raise are more selfish and self-centred than in earlier times. 

This generation is the one that sucks resources from their parents, and once they attain financial independence, they forget their sacrifices. In short, they follow the policy of “use and throw”. 

Once the child has become self-sufficient, the mother becomes redundant in their lives. 

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