Everybody loves, love. Right?
Well maybe not everybody but almost everybody. Who wouldn’t like a little romance and companionship, but before he gets swept away in the fantasy of it all you should know that there are some brutal truths about relationships that will bring you all back to reality.
Today we are going to look at 15 of these truths that you should keep in mind whether you’re already in a relationship or are on the market.
So let’s get started
You will at one point or another, get your heartbroken.
This is the truth for the 99% of us who do not end up staying with our first love forever.
The truth is that most relationships ultimately don’t work out and end in either a break-up or a divorce.
At times, a break up can be the best thing that ever happened to you, but it’s hard to recognize that when the heartbreak is fresh.
But if you approach it with the right perspective, a broken heart can teach you lessons and help you grow and will eventually help lead you to the person that is right for you.
If you are looking for happiness in another person, you’re not going to find it.
You have to find happiness within yourself without relying on someone else to be the source of happiness.
That just puts an unfair burden on your partner and it’s much more likely that your unhappiness would bring them down to the point where you are both unhappy.
Despite what hundreds or even thousands of love might tell you simply being in love is not enough to sustain a healthy, long term relationship.
You need other elements as well including trust, respect, understanding, communication, honesty and friendship.
There are also logistical aspects of the relationship that involve things like paying the bill, potentially raising children and determining where to live.
And all of these factors can affect whether a relationship survives.
Now some of you might want to argue this point.
You might think you already find the absolute perfect person for you, but that would mean that there’s literally nothing, big or small you would change about them and nothing that they do irritates or annoys you at anytime.
Now I ask you, can you honestly say that.
All people are flawed you just have to determine if the flaws of your significant other are ones you are prepared to deal with in the long term.
With the ease of access, most of us have today-dating apps and social media.
There are literally thousands of potential partners at our figure tips at any given time.
But your relationship will never work if you always have one eye focused on-who else might be interested or available.
Its not fair to your significant other and ultimately you’ll suffer as well because you’ll never be truly happy with who you have.
I know you’ve heard this before but it’s still something that not enough people pay proper attention to, as with anything the results you get are directly proportional to the work you put into it.
Some of this work involves assessing your own behaviors and determining how you can be a better partner and actually following through.
But there’s a lot more to it than that if you find that your significant other isn’t worthy of the time and effort it takes to maintain a healthy relationship. Its time to reassess.
Not being willing to put in the work is one of many reasons why people don’t find love.
Yes, love is blind and the initial infatuation we may have for someone will often cause us to overlook all the red flags we can so easily identify in our friend’s significant others.
But these issues never go away and infact will become even bigger problems the longer you try to sweep them under the rug.
You might stay in a bad relationship for too long because it’s comfortable.
It’s comfortable! At least you know what you’re dealing with in this relationship and do you really want to put in the effort to start all over with someone new.
Other people don’t want to admit defeat and instead will keep up with appearances while sacrificing their own personal happiness.
But ultimately this is just doing a disservice to you.
You might feel like you have the strongest connection possible with your partner but you are still not a mind reader.
Even if you two talk about everything you can never be 100% sure about the things that go on in your partner’s mind that they leave unsaid.
In an ideal world, you would only have eyes for your partner but sometimes simple biology gets in the way of this.
You’re likely still going to be attracted to other people even if you love your significant other very much.
Love doesn’t erase temptation but hopefully it’ll keep you from acting on it.
The people who are closest to you including your significant others know the most about you, this means they know what makes you happy, but they also know just how to push your buttons.
Insults from loved ones can cut deep because they know just how to do it.
If you start out with the low blows you can expect your partner to lob them right back and it could get very ugly very fast.
When you’re in a relationship it’s not just about you anymore.
You aren’t going to get your way 100% of the time and neither is your significant other.
You probably aren’t going to always agree with which movie to watch, where to go on vacation, which side of the bed to sleep on or a million other things.
Give and take is essential in a relationship. So, you better be ready to compromise.
You are not the same person you were a year ago, whether you’ve changed for the good or the bad in subtle or obvious ways, you definitely have changed.
These changes become more obvious the longer you stay with a person to the point where the person you’re dating hardly resembles the person you first fell in love with.
Ideally you and your significant other will grow together in the same direction but sometimes the opposite happens and partners no longer share the same worldview, life goals or interests.
This has great potential to drive two people apart in the long run and its not something that can be easily avoided.
You could be soul mates who are connected on every level in every time and space but you’re still going to have disagreements, it’s the nature of being human.
A healthy amount of fighting is good for a relationship it ideally results in conflict resolution growth and a closer bond.
However, you use destructive tactics like name-calling, low blows, bringing out past issues and physical aggression it can have the very opposite effect.
You aren’t going to be a lovable ray of sunshine every day and neither is your partner.
Everybody has bad days and difficult seasons in life and you have to be willing to take the good with the bad.
Give your partner some space if they need it and if they recognize that the feelings of dislike are temporary at least in most cases.
Not surprisingly, the global divorce rate is constantly rising.
In fact it has increased by over 250% since 1960.
The country with the highest divorce rate is Luxembourg where over 85% of marriages are ending in divorce.
The country with the lowest divorce rate is India, where only one percent of marriages end in divorce.
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